We remodeled our kitchen two years ago. We have natural hickory cabinets with a lot of random grain. They also have black satin crown molding and trim on bottem of upper cabinets with under cabinet lighting. Knobs and pulls are black as well. The countertops and backsplash are black granite with gold fleck. Appliances are stainless and black. Paint is Ben Moore HC-112 Tate Olive which is a fairly dark green. We also have a garden window to allow the south sun in, as well as 5 can lights in the ceiling. For me this is not too much black, too dark or anything of the sort. I think it's all about the contrast of dark and light. But, that's my preferance. Unfortunately cabinets, counters and backsplash are harder and more costly to change than paint. Try a paint that is of similar color to the backsplah that you are considering. that should give you some insight hopefully. Good luck.