For heating of single family homes, some heat loss values are
.....x......x.x..x.....x.x
0.....|.....|.....|.....|....|
..............................10
where the units are
BTU/sq. ft./HDD
The 1.7 on the left is probably the best that anyone can do. My leaky old house comes in at 8.0. If additional, future data that I collect follows the same pattern you can be reasonably assured that most houses fall between 1.7 and 9 BTU/sq. ft./HDD, with newer houses being tighter.
If anyone has similar data for single family homes for cooling (heat gain) normalized to house sq. footage and cooling degree days I'd like to see it. When I had the 1985 Manual J in my hands I should have used the house in their example.
The cooling datapoints will probably be scattered more than above because the COP varies with outside temp, but oil/gas appliances have a more or less constant efficiency.
There should be some (loose) connection between the heating and cooling load since they're both related to insulation value.