Please read the links below, they should answer all of your questions. Note that a larger tonnage unit should not be considered an upgrade. Bigger, as far as HVAC goes, is not better.
The duct system needs to also be assessed to verify it can move the the quantity of air discharged from a 3 or 3.5 ton unit.
https://www.angieslist.com/articles/difference-between-best-hvac-brands.htm
http://efficientcomfort.net/documents/Understanding_HVAC_System_Design_Issues.pdf
http://efficientcomfort.net/documents/Sizing_&_Selecting_for_Proper_Humidity_Control.pdf
http://efficientcomfort.net/documents/Bigger_is_Not_Better-Sizing_Air_Conditioners_Properly.pdf
http://www.loadcalc.net
The duct system needs to also be assessed to verify it can move the the quantity of air discharged from a 3 or 3.5 ton unit.
https://www.angieslist.com/articles/difference-between-best-hvac-brands.htm
http://efficientcomfort.net/documents/Understanding_HVAC_System_Design_Issues.pdf
http://efficientcomfort.net/documents/Sizing_&_Selecting_for_Proper_Humidity_Control.pdf
http://efficientcomfort.net/documents/Bigger_is_Not_Better-Sizing_Air_Conditioners_Properly.pdf
http://www.loadcalc.net