You need whats called a latching relay !
You apply power once and it pulls in, and latchs on,
Apply power again and it un-latchs and drops out.
Make sure the contacts are more than 5a,
As your quoted specs say 5a
Running contacts at max,
is a sure way to get short life,
Try contacts of at least 10a.
Latching relays are not common,
but good electrical suppliers should have them.
Suppliers that serve the electricains and switch board builders.
You apply power once and it pulls in, and latchs on,
Apply power again and it un-latchs and drops out.
Make sure the contacts are more than 5a,
As your quoted specs say 5a
Running contacts at max,
is a sure way to get short life,
Try contacts of at least 10a.
Latching relays are not common,
but good electrical suppliers should have them.
Suppliers that serve the electricains and switch board builders.