So I put another 3 amp fuse in, with the system off, and it was fine. I switched it to heat and turned the temp up and ran heat, and it was fine, so as a novice I'm still trying to figure this out... I just don't have the money to give up...
If anyone spots a good trouble shooting video, point me to it. I borrowed a real nice digital multimeter, but I never learned much on their use. I mean , I've added wired boxes for lights, but never successfully did intense troubleshooting, YET. YET.