3 way switch wiring

Hello:

I am wiring up a set of stairway lights where the wire is run behind the wall. Its a four wire setup with black, red, white and ground wire. I may have wired the whole thing wrong at this point, but have to live with what I have. I want a 3 way at the top and bottom of the stairs, and have seven lights in-between. When I set this up, the guy at the local electrical supplier assured me I was doing everything right. Now after reading a bit, and asking an electrician, I'm more confused than ever.

Here's the situation. Power at the downstairs switch. Wire runs through 7 outlet boxes that will have 7w lights in them, up to a switch box at the top of the stairs. I do NOT have a wire running directly from one switch to the other, except to say all the ones in the light boxes. After reading a bit, I figured I would use the red wire as a direct traveler, just binding it with wirenuts in each box. The white wire and the black wire will go through, connecting to the black and white wires in the light fixtures.

I was told this. Power to the black pole on the switch. White and Red wires to the gold poles on the switch. The red wire will connect directly to the other switch without any interruption. The white wire will connect to a gold terminal on both, but will feed through each light. Black wire the same.

Will this work? For some reason, my electrician friend got me so confused I don't know which end is up now. I don't want to burn my house down!

Thanks in advance for any help