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Old 09-23-2017, 06:52 AM   #16
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Lol on my weeds. Its like this. With helping my daughter I get a little behind at home. Weeds are insane here growing overnight. Maybe the humidity? Many areas or around trees I use a weed-eater. Thankfully I didn't have damage from Irma but I had a gazillion twigs and little branches I'm still picking up so again, I'm behind on trimming.

I'd say this lady was middle age.

Asian people age well, if she looked middle aged she is probably in her late 80's.
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Old 09-23-2017, 07:48 AM   #17
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I doubt it's a cultural thing. We have a lot of Vietnamese Americans around here and they are no different than any white Americans culturally. Well, they might be better at saving money. It's more likely some form of senility is setting in.

That's why I asked if she was elderly. Possible dementia. But, I did live in Hong Kong for 2 yrs & there were tremendous cultural differences. My mom wrote a book on it, literally. One that comes to mind was that the workers on the barge laying pipe in the ocean, peed in the kitchen sink.

I even hesitated with the skull & bones picture because many people would take their relatives bones out of graves and wash them once a year on a holiday. I wouldn't want the lady to think that SO had family buried near the weeds.

We have habits that are weird to them. In fact they probably think we are even weirder. She probably doesn't understand why SO doesn't harvest those valuable herbs, herself.

But, you would have to talk to her, to know if she is Chinese & if she speaks English. I doubt she is dangerous.
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My Dad grew up very poor on a farm in the 1930's with 7 siblings and learned how to save and horde every penny he could out of necessity. He still does that today with some items.

He complained to me one day that KMart sold him a plastic garbage can for his desk for 73 cents ( back in the 80's) and then he saw it at Wal Mart for 70 cents. I am not sure if he returned one and got the other.

Point being some people who grew up like that had being "cheap" or getting something for free seared into their brains. Possibly some elderly Chinese people who came from poor villages think the same way.

Good news is now Dad has quite a bit of money from a lifelong of saving and will gladly pay $175 for a family meal and take me and Sis and BIL and their kids out to celebrate birthdays. He gladly gave the waitress a 10% tip the other day, so people can change.
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Two things to help put this in context: First, my wife was born in China, and it is very common for us to go on a walk in our neighborhood and her to point out that some part of one of our neighbor's landscaping is a common food back in China. Depending where you live this could very well be food this women used to eat regularly, but can't buy now.

It wasn't all that long ago that many parts of China were subject to mass starvation. (My father in-law lost both his parts and his younger siblings to Mao induced starvation in his young teens.) This leads many Chinese to view wasting food as being incredibly sinful. The mindset is in many Americans too, especially older ones impacted by the Great Depression, but it seems much stronger in the Chinese I know.
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... The mindset is in many Americans too, especially older ones impacted by the Great Depression, but it seems much stronger in the Chinese I know.
How true! My mother grew up on a hard-scrabble farm and fed a family of five (on a teenager) on $5 a week during the depression. Heaven help the one that wasted food around her.
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Since she can come and go when you aren't there best to get to know her. Sounds like she is harmless and from what I understand about their culture I doubt she would ever take anything of value to you, except your weeds. Having someone in the yard that you trust actually increases your security.

Once you learn what she is after you could stop using weed killer on some area of your yard and let her know where it is safe. Much more rewarding to make a friend than an enemy.

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Yeah, I am glad I did not grow up poor. We were working class and Dad worked in a meat packing plant and sadly wrecked his body working like a machine to feed us.

The way he ( and I ) grew up you always bought whatever you could on sale, haggled like heck, used coupons, paid cash, only borrowed money to buy a new house ( plus he built half of it himself ), bought used cars and fixed them yourself, etc etc.

That is how I learned to work ( fixing cars ). I had central heat and they had a wood or box stove. I had indoor plumbing and they had a outhouse and were so poor they had a dirt floor in their house until Grand Pa could rustle up enough $$ to buy some wood.

Point being these immigrants whether from the Ukraine or China or Americans who grew up in the dirty 30's had to learn to be frugal and self sufficient.

Stalin also starved millions of Ukrainians to death in the Holodomor ( genocide ) so there is no love wasted between the Ukraine and Russia. Lots of nasty Dudes doing bad things back then. Now we have Kim Duk Soup doing it in Korea so I guess nothing really changes.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holodomor
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Sounds like you need a dog for protection and they are good company too.

Where I am (Winnipeg) we are VERY multi-cultural and I mean VERY. There are lots of people from India in my area plus lots of Muslims.

We have these old retired Indian Dudes riding bicycles with white turbans and flowing man dresses like Osama wore. I call them the Bombay Bicycle Club and they meet everyday at the local park, sit on a bench and probably debate politics and religion.

Point is multi-culturalism is great and we all get along well and I enjoy seeing all the different types of people and learning about their cultures. Little old Chinese ladies making a few pennies collecting pop cans is the least of my worries.

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YES. I'm from Winnipeg too (West End), so I totally agree but I don't think that all of Winnipeg is that multicultural. I'm gonna guess you live up by the Maples if you see traditional East Indians on bicycles. Not do discredit the OP's discomfort with a stranger on their yard in the least, but I can say that I've had similar experiences with elderly Asians in Vancouver picking free food and Germans coming onto my family's property in Manitoba to gather dandelions to eat. I dabble in a bit of foraging so the thing the lady was doing wouldn't both me.

If she seems not quite aware or the weed is not particularly edible (even in the forager's handbooks for example), then dementia is a possibility. I don't mean that derogatorily at all; but my uncle law has dementia at a relatively young age and I have become aware of how that affects people's behaviour in strange ways that befuddle people. It is not being crazy so much as a deterioration of brain causing miscalculations and strange scenarios.

All the best in approaching her kindly, with room for curiosity, as you maintain your boundaries.
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So, @Startingover , anything new to report?
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She's making dandelion wine.
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I would find this very disturbing, and I donít blame you for being nervous.
Have you talked to your neighbors to see if they have experienced the
same type behavior from this lady? If you see her again, I would call the
cops and report this. She may be suffering from dementia or mentally
challenged and wanders away from her family.

Keep your doors locked when youíre in the front yard.
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Wish we had (a few) dandelions but none here. My aunts made a good wilted salad in spring with young leaves, onion and bacon.

Haven't seen the older lady.

Two weeks ago went out and there was a young Asian maybe Chinese woman standing in my side yard. Maybe in her twenties. I asked if I could help her and she just laughed. Then I asked what she was doing in my yard and she laughed again, bending over to laugh. She motioned towards the street and laughed.

I think she was waiting for someone and came up in yard to wait in the shade.

Its not convenient but I'm trying to keep front and back doors locked when working in yard an just keep side door open.

I've seen a few people use some kind of keypad on the side of their overhead garage doors. Don't know the reliability or cost but that might be handy.
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Wish we had (a few) dandelions but none here. My aunts made a good wilted salad in spring with young leaves, onion and bacon.

Haven't seen the older lady.

Two weeks ago went out and there was a young Asian maybe Chinese woman standing in my side yard. Maybe in her twenties. I asked if I could help her and she just laughed. Then I asked what she was doing in my yard and she laughed again, bending over to laugh. She motioned towards the street and laughed.

I think she was waiting for someone and came up in yard to wait in the shade.

Its not convenient but I'm trying to keep front and back doors locked when working in yard an just keep side door open.

I've seen a few people use some kind of keypad on the side of their overhead garage doors. Don't know the reliability or cost but that might be handy.
Laughing can be embarrassment/shyness. For all you know they could be rural, hill people like the Hmong. Maybe there is no concept of yard.

You may have some valuable weed. They may call you the Weed Lady.
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I looked up demographics & Asians have increased 70% in recent years, in Florida.

It's very common to know Asians here since they've been here since the 1800s for the gold rush & railroad. ( Even longer if you consider the Native Americans may have come from Asia!) We have Koreatown, Japantown, Chinatowns, Little Saigon, Little Cambodia, etc. Even the Lao/Hmong are in the 300,000s.

Calif is over 13 % Asian, compared to Ohio's 1.9%. No wonder you were surprised.

Next time you go in a store/restaurant with an Asian proprietor, tell them about your experience in a diplomatic way & ask what they think. I find store owners usually like to talk when it's not busy. They often had a professional job in their birth country. Most people are very willing to talk about their culture. ( The very few that aren't are sometimes not proud of their country. Like N.Korea. But, that's rare.)

I think it's fascinating.
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