Making decorating choices for other prople is an impossibe task. No two peoples likes/dislikes are the same. I don't know what colr 'american stained' is, but you don't want too much of the same color, and how dark might depend on the amount of natural light in the kitchen. It's still your choice.
Go to the store and pick up darker stain sample and start putting it on oak boards. Put poly over it to get a correct color reading.
Make the samples large enough to compare.
Pick the one you like.