If you are both uncomfortable in the car how did you end up getting it?
I can only think of a few options right now. One is some aftermarket steering wheels are deeper then stock ones also they generally use a spline adaptor assembly so they can fit many vehicles to the same wheel. It may be possible to find a aftermarket to bring it a few inches closer. Other then that I will take a little engineering. It may be possible to have a machinist make a extension for the hub but it is pricey to have custom splines made. Moving the whole column would get very involved and most shops would turn away from that type of work.
The simplest solution is to both road test cars until you find one you are both comfortable in and trade this one that is uncomfortable for you in.