Hey Toolbelt, colors in the world of stain are all kind of relative. "Espresso" in one might be "cherry" in another,
. However, if we are talking about Minwax, you might consider a "Special Walnut" color, #224. It's a medium brown with red hues that should complement both the cabinetry and the paneling you have and should mix well with the natural color of your oak flooring. You might consider putting a "Natural" stain on your ceiling though, if you go too dark there, it will press the room down and make it feel more like a cave.