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Old 06-26-2014, 03:37 PM   #1
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Hi all. My sweet hubby passed away last year and I am doing my best to become a good enough DIYer to keep my house up and running.

I live in Florida. Hubby and I built our own home, which I love, but it is 14 years old now and time for everything to start falling apart. So I'll be asking lots of questions!!

So glad I found this forum.


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Old 06-26-2014, 03:45 PM   #2
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Im sorry to hear of your loss, my condolences.

However, I would like to say welcome to the forum, some here are DIYers and Some of us are Pros. Questions will be answered, and help is available to ya! Some things require pictures to be answered fully, and always provide as much info as you can when asking questions!

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Old 06-26-2014, 04:17 PM   #3
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Thanks Steve in PA. I already posted my first question in the Painting forum (about mildew resistant paint for exteriors). Hopefully, some pros will answer.
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I am so sorry for your loss. We welcome you and hope we can help you, if you have any questions at all please ask, there are many pros here in every trade and many are the cream of the crop, they just don't come any better. We are all here to help.
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Thanks. My hubby was a builder. That's why I never really had to learn how to do much.
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Very sorry for your loss as well.

I am willing to bet you picked up more than you think by contact alone.

You are in the right spot though. Look forward to future posts.
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I certainly did learn a lot from my hubby. I just rebuilt part of this large pergola that he had built me a long time ago. The part he had used cedar on was rotting away so I rebuilt it with PT. I didn't do it as well as he would have, but I did Do It Myself!
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Welcome and sorry for your loss
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Old 06-27-2014, 01:17 PM   #9
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And thanks to everyone for your kind condolences. It is certainly nothing any of us ever really expects and probably the hardest thing any of us will ever have to go through. Or at least that's what both my doctor and my grief counselors have said. It has been 8 months now and it is still really, really hard. But having projects helps.
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I can't even stand the thoughts of being without Judy, I can only imagine how you must feel.

You did a great job, at least you won't have to buy tools and learn how to use them. If I don't miss my guess you helped your husband a lot, now it is paying off.
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backyarder....you know our thoughts are with you.....

It sounds like you have moved on....not forgotten your husband....but accepted the fact you must continue his DIY legacy.........and I'm sure I speak for all of us when I say, "We salute you".

With that out of the way.....

Do NOT be afraid to ask a question...remember, ALL of us were newbies at some point.....except for me, it's not something you are born with.

Regarding your bench....the ceder must have been old....it usually does well outside. But you're fine with PT wood.

I'll be looking for you posts....so I can offer as much help as possible....
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I can't even stand the thoughts of being without Judy, I can only imagine how you must feel.

You did a great job, at least you won't have to buy tools and learn how to use them. If I don't miss my guess you helped your husband a lot, now it is paying off.
Not that I want to get on the topic of death rather than DIY, but I think that is how most of us feel. I honestly didn't think I could survive if something happened to Tom. He was my everything. My better half. And his death was so sudden. All you can do is take things one day at a time.
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You are doing great.

My best friend just passed totally unexpectedly about a week ago and he left behind two young girls (6 and 4) and a wife.

We never know when the good Lord calls us home so be sure to cherish the days that we have with our loved ones and make sure we are living as he would want us to.

There is no DIY grief fixing and at the end of the day, it makes some carpentry or plumbing work look easy.

Nice work on the pergola though!! I bet he would be proud of you!!!
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You are doing great.

My best friend just passed totally unexpectedly about a week ago and he left behind two young girls (6 and 4) and a wife.

We never know when the good Lord calls us home so be sure to cherish the days that we have with our loved ones and make sure we are living as he would want us to.

There is no DIY grief fixing and at the end of the day, it makes some carpentry or plumbing work look easy.

Nice work on the pergola though!! I bet he would be proud of you!!!
I am sorry for your loss. You are so right about cherishing each day with our loved ones. I always try to encourage everyone to do that now.

I used to write a garden blog in your area. I never lived there, but it was a fun gig.
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I suffered a widowmaker heart attack just over a month ago and through the grace and mercy of God I survived. I consider every day since then as a special gift from God. Love those around you. That is what is important !

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